Fixing the pattern.

Dear Amy: I’m a smart, well-educated woman in my mid-50s. I’ve been dating “Chas,” (in his mid-60s) for five years. This is my first relationship after over 30 years with my ex. (My ex-husband abruptly left me and our kids for another woman). Chas and I have maintained a long-distance relationship. He tells me dailyContinue reading “Fixing the pattern.”

Trying to reason through the weirdness.

I’ve been musing more about Stevil, my neighbor, who instilled in me this recurring relationship pattern of male friendship going badly awry when I ask to be more than friends. I’ve been wondering about the conversation that started it all: Why did he ask me if I’d been sexually abused? He said, “You seem toContinue reading “Trying to reason through the weirdness.”

STEVIL!!

I had a bit of a breakthrough last night. I was lying in bed, and I asked myself, how far back does my relationship-pattern issue go? Like, has it been there my whole adult life, or what?  And the answer came to me: Stevil! Steve is my next-door neighbor. I met him while walking around theContinue reading “STEVIL!!”

Cursed!

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE So I’ve been thinking about my relationship issues and the abuse I suffered as a child. Ashley Leia thinks I engage in “splitting,” which is a concept from borderline personality disorder. Based on what I understand, it involves seeing people as all good or all bad (black and white without any gray)Continue reading “Cursed!”

Create your website at WordPress.com
Get started